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A Thought or Two on Love & Same-Sex Marriage

There’s a joke I tell in my comedy routine about same-sex marriage. Once you get married, the sex is always the same! (Rimshot here.)

Now I make it a point not to tell that bit with my lovely wife in the audience, otherwise sex won’t even be a question when we get back to the house because the answer will be “no.” So, as Indiana lawmakers get ready for another constitutional amendment on protecting “traditional” marriage, I just have one question: Why?

No matter how hard I try, I will never fully understand the opposition to same-sex marriage.

I have yet to see what the problem is with two consenting adults creating a life together for themselves, being productive members of society and not encroaching on my property or reaching into my wallet. With that said, I expect a vigorous debate here in Indiana over the next few months and into the 2014 legislative session as to whether an amendment to the Indiana Constitution banning same-sex marriage should be on the ballot.

Now that the U.S Supreme Court has thrown out the Defense of Marriage Act, but appear to have left in place power for states to decide the marriage question, both Indiana House Speaker Brian Bosma and Senate President David Long have said they expect lawmakers to take up the issue and that Hoosiers have a right to speak on the issue. It’s important to note that neither leader has come out, per se, in favor of the amendment. They just say, for now, that Hoosiers should have the right to have a say in the matter, like voters in 30 other states.

I always tell people to be careful what they wish for, because I truly think, for the first time since coming to Indiana in 2004, that if this measure were to come on the ballot in 2014, it would, pardon the expression, go down in flames. And I have a wide variety of data to back up this theory.

First, attitudes toward same-sex marriage have changed fast and furiously over the last 30 years.

According to Gallup, back in 1996 nearly 70 percent of the public opposed same-sex marriage. In the most recent national polling, that number has consistently stayed above 50 percent.

Here in Indiana, there have been three public polls taken in the last few years regarding the marriage equality issue. A Greenberg Quinlan Rosner Research poll taken in March 2011 showed 43 percent of the public favoring an amendment banning same-sex marriage, while 47 percent opposed it. Seven percent were undecided.

A poll by political writer Brian Howey and DePauw University had 48 percent of voters supporting the amendment and 45 percent opposing, with 7 percent undecided. And the most recent poll, conducted by the Bowen Center for Public Affairs at Ball State University, showed only 38 percent of the public supporting the measure and 54 percent opposing it.

And there is no guarantee that Hoosiers who vote Republican will also vote for an amendment banning same-sex marriage. As we saw in 2012, Hoosiers voted for Republican Mitt Romney, Democrat Joe Donnelly, Republican Mike Pence and Democrat Glenda Ritz. So ticket splitting is not out of the ordinary. So the folks who really want to push for an amendment should be careful about what they are asking for. History is not working in their favor.

And besides, isn’t everyone entitled to be as happy as the lovely Mrs. Shabazz? Of course they are.


  • Dave

    So… in this whacky world ‘o special interest owned language, opp-sex marriages are now gay or are they unions? Should we wait on the court to instruct?

  • Greg Greer

    There was an op-ed in the Thursday Star that said we should all oppose same sex marriage for the good of the children. He went on at great length about how every child needs a mother and a father. I agree that is the ideal situation but I would think it’s in the states best interest that children be supported in a loving nurturing two income home, no matter who the two parents happen to be. What if there are no children? Should two people who love each other be denied marriage legalization because of other people’s children? According to my research, same sex marriage was accepted in many cultures until the rise of Christianity. Is this push to outlaw SSM just another step in pressuring America towards a Judeo-Christian theocracy? Interestingly enough, Canada legalized same sex marriage nationwide in 2005 and I”m pretty sure their nation has not collapsed nor has it been rained with fire and brimstone. We should more closely examine their experiences before voting to change our state constitution.

  • Ramon

    Gov. Pence and the GOP might be doing the Dems a favor. If they place the amendment on the ballot, sporadic young and liberal voters might turn out to support it. Any increase in those voting blocks could spell doom for some GOP officeholders in marginal districts. The courts are going to settle this soon anyway so the amendment might be overruled in the next few years.

  • http://www.thePoliPit.com JednaVira

    Drives me crazy that people call it “same-sex MARRIAGE” The very definition of marriage is the union of two people of the opposite sex; at least it’s been defined that way for the last 8,000 years. However, I guess we know better in 2013…right? Believe it or not, there is a purpose for marriage…the primary one being procreation. Good luck populating a nation full of children with homosexual unions. I’ve never seen anything more ridiculous in my life…the fight over legitimizing a behavior; a desire to have sex with someone of the same sex. Fire and brimstone won’t rain down on us, but we will certainly reap what we sow.